Although it is still surrounded by prejudice, anal sex is becoming increasingly popular.
Today, more and more couples enjoy it, whether to explore a new form of sexuality or satisfy their curiosity. The figures do not lie: 49% of women say they have practised anal sex at some point in their lives, compared with 37% 20 years ago, according to an IFOP study.
If anal sex has so many enthusiasts, it is notably thanks to the pleasure it can bring.
Uncover the secrets of this practice, still sometimes taboo, and discover a few tips and pieces of advice to achieve an anal orgasm.
What is an anal orgasm?
Contrary to popular belief, when it comes to sexuality, anal sex is not reserved solely for same-sex couples. Anal sex is widespread among heterosexual people and even among solo people who use anal plugs and sex toys, making it universal!
An anal orgasm is not very different from a vaginal or penile orgasm and follows the same mechanism; it is all about the art of how you approach it. Just as intense as its counterparts, it responds to stimulation of the anal area and is therefore accessible to everyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
The anus is an area highly conducive to orgasms, as it is made up of highly vascularised and innervated tissue. This sensitivity is explained by the presence of the pudendal nerve, which innervates the entire perineal region. Due to its location, the anus is particularly receptive to both external and internal stimulation.
Anal stimulation can also affect other erogenous zones, encouraging explosive orgasms:
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For people with a vulva, it can heighten sensations around the G-spot and A-spot;
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For people with a penis, it stimulates the prostate (P-spot), an area known for providing intense sensations;
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It can be combined with other forms of stimulation (clitoral or penile, for example).
Why is anal pleasure so intense?
The anus is an endless source of pleasure!
The internal nerve endings located in the anal area are particularly sensitive to sensations of pressure and stretching. But the anus is also highly responsive to external stimulation: rubbing, changes in temperature, caresses, and more.
From a physiological perspective, when it is stimulated and pleasure builds, the pelvic muscles contract, especially during orgasm. The sphincter muscles relax and encourage anal dilation. This makes it possible to insert fingers, a penis or a sex toy without causing discomfort to the person being penetrated.
Anal pleasure is also heightened by the ability to let go and the thrill of the forbidden offered by this practice, which can still be taboo. The novelty and exploration of another form of pleasure help to intensify the ecstasy felt by partners who enjoy anal sex.
For people with a vulva
As surprising as it may seem, anal stimulation can stimulate the G-spot and A-spot of people with a vulva through the vaginal wall. This practice is often described as more controlled and more intense: a real pleasure, all in all!
The clitoris is not left out either: anal penetration stimulates its internal branches! This combination offers another form of pleasure, with explosive, multiple and often deeper orgasms as the reward!
For people with a penis
The prostate, or P-spot, is a true source of sensation, located around 5 cm inside, within the rectum and accessible through the anus.
When stimulated, pleasure can be on the menu: it becomes slower, more enveloping, deeper. A prostate orgasm is often described by people with a penis as a wave spreading throughout the pelvis, and can sometimes hold wonderful surprises: some enthusiasts have reported experiencing a multi-orgasmic experience.
Anal sex for people with a penis says nothing about who you are or your preferences. The pleasure felt is simply a matter of anatomy!
How to achieve an anal orgasm: 4 key steps
To achieve an anal orgasm, good physical and mental preparation is essential.
Relax and create the right atmosphere
To relax this sensitive area and help the sphincter relax, do not overlook good mental preparation.
Creating a relaxing atmosphere can help you release your muscles and open your mind. Soft music, candles, massage, deep breathing, a bubble bath or dim lighting can become your best allies.
You will then be free from all stress that could make the experience less enjoyable!
Use a suitable lubricant
Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce natural lubrication. If you would like to try anal penetration, you should not skip a good lubricant.
We recommend a water-based product, for its compatibility with silicone sex toys and condoms. When it comes to anal play, do not skimp on lubricant and reapply as often as needed. A lack of lubricant could cause discomfort.
Strap-on-me has designed a range of anal lubricants ideal for this sexual practice, including the Mixgliss Max Expert model, an essential!
Start gently and progress gradually
Like other practices enjoyed as a couple or solo, foreplay is essential when considering trying anal sex.
Plenty of gentleness and caresses make ideal foreplay for building arousal. When the body begins to relax, you can consider introducing one finger, then two, starting with the little finger so as not to go too fast. Then, you can take things a step further by using sex toys specially designed for anal play, such as plugs or anal beads.
By taking the time to progress, dilation will happen little by little and comfort will be better assured.
If you feel pain or change your mind, stop immediately: listening to your sensations and your body is essential.
Stimulating several areas at once
To reach orgasm, you may consider simultaneous stimulation. To do so, combine other erogenous zones with the anus, such as the clitoris, chest, perineum or penis.
A mixed orgasm, known as a blended orgasm, is described as more powerful than isolated stimulation alone.
The slow back-and-forth technique, while deep, can also hold wonderful surprises.
What are the best positions for achieving an anal orgasm?
The Kamasutra lists many positions for having fun! Which are the best ones to try to achieve a powerful, intense anal orgasm?
Doggy style
Doggy style is a simple yet effective position. One partner gets on all fours, arching their back, while the other penetrates them standing up.
Penetration is very deep and sensations are often at their peak! However, it is not recommended for those new to anal play, but rather for more experienced people.
Spooning
The spooning position combines sensuality, intimacy and tenderness. Both partners lie on their side, with the person being penetrated in front of the person penetrating them.
Spooning allows the partner behind to caress the body of the other partner to increase relaxation and penetrate them gently. It is therefore particularly recommended for anal sex.
Cowgirl
Cowgirl, where the person being penetrated takes the lead, is a much-loved position for anal sex.
Simply position yourself on top of your partner lying down, as though straddling a mount, and move back and forth from front to back.
Ideal for building self-confidence, the cowgirl position is also ideal for stimulating the clitoris or penis during sex.
Lying on your back, with your legs raised
This position is perfect for stimulating the P-spot or G-spot of the person being penetrated. Comfort is also at its highest, as they are lying down comfortably. The person penetrating their partner can brace themselves against their partner's legs for greater stability.
The depth and angle are ideal for satisfying anal penetration and full eye contact, encouraging a beautiful sense of connection and stronger bonds.
Which sex toys should you use to explore anal orgasm?
To vary sensations, it is possible to introduce sex toys for anal play.
Anal plugs and anal beads
To begin exploring anal penetration and become familiar with the sensation of fullness, anal plugs and anal beads are a good starting point. Their shape is designed for smooth insertion and lasting comfort.
With their flared base, plugs combine comfort and safety for complete control over your pleasure.
Anal beads, meanwhile, encourage gradual stimulation, with each one offering a new sensation.
For an experience that is both gentle and safe, choose silicone, silky to the touch and kind to the body.
Dildos and strap-ons for anal pleasure
Classic strap-ons transform pleasure into a true game of connection for two. They allow you to explore, guide, share a different kind of intensity and open up to new fantasies in a complicit dynamic.
Pegging, where one partner penetrates their male partner with a strap-on, opens the door to often unexpected, deep and powerful sensations.
Some models of vibrating strap-on dildos or double-stimulation models, such as those from Strap-on-Me, enrich the experience even further by offering pleasure on both sides, simultaneously.
Prostate massagers
Prostate massagers are designed as an extension of the hand, with a precise curve that naturally follows the P-spot.
Stimulation then becomes more targeted, more enveloping, almost magnetic.
Some models come in a vibrating version: sensations unfold intensely, inviting deep surrender and waves of pleasure that build and linger.
What are the safety and hygiene rules?
As with any sexual practice, hygiene and safety should not be overlooked.
Hygiene and infection prevention
Anal penetration carries the same types of risks as vaginal penetration. To protect against STIs and sexually transmitted infections, using a condom is recommended. The anus can indeed contain bacteria.
If you combine practices and alternate between anal and vaginal sex, make sure to change condoms between the two.
Finally, regular care of your sex toys, before and after use, is essential.
Listening to your body and communicating
Anal penetration should never be forced. The person being penetrated can express discomfort or unease at any point during sex. Communicating, giving consent and talking after the experience are key to anal sex built on trust, respect and pleasure.
In the event of pain or bleeding, stop immediately and consult a healthcare professional as soon as possible.
Anal orgasm FAQ
Does an anal orgasm hurt?
No, that is false!
It is normal to feel slight discomfort when beginning anal penetration. This is why good lubrication, suitable preparation and the right atmosphere are essential for enjoying anal sex.
By following all these steps, discomfort fades away and pleasure begins to emerge!
How should you prepare for anal sex?
Some people feel the need to prepare the anal area before sex by having an enema, but this is not essential.
Communicating with your partner, focusing on foreplay, taking your time and using the right products already provide an excellent foundation for optimal preparation.
Can you have an anal orgasm without penetration?
Of course! External stimulation can be just as pleasurable as penetration. Be imaginative: fingers, tongue, toys and caresses can all help lead your partner to the threshold of ecstasy.
What is the difference between an anal orgasm and a prostate orgasm?
It is all about anatomy! An anal orgasm comes from stimulating the nerve endings of the anus and can be felt by everyone. A prostate orgasm, meanwhile, is a more targeted form linked to stimulation of the prostate (P-spot), generally deeper, more enveloping and sometimes more intense, with waves of pleasure taking over the entire pelvis.
Which lubricant should you use for anal pleasure?
A good water-based lubricant is essential for anal penetration, particularly because it is highly compatible with sex toys and condoms. Remember that when it comes to anal sex, you should not skimp on the amount!
Can everyone have an anal orgasm?
Yes, anyone with an anus can have an anal orgasm. Man, woman, heterosexual or homosexual: this practice makes no distinction based on gender or sexual orientation.
There is no single way to reach ecstasy: some people get there easily, while others need time, relaxation and experience.
