Pegging — translated as "chevillage" in French (less sexy, we'll grant you that!) — is a sexual practice well known among sex toy enthusiasts who enjoy dildos, strap-ons or harnesses. This alternative way for couples to explore pleasure is gaining more and more fans, and even those who haven't tried it yet have almost certainly heard of it.
Let madam take the reins of pleasure for two and discover our tips for diving in without taboo, inhibition, or vulnerability! It's a perfect opportunity for those who love to embody a woman who dominates and guide the experience at their own pace.
Pay attention — something tells us your sex life is about to change!
Pegging — what exactly is it?
Definition of pegging
To give a clear definition of pegging, it refers to a woman using a sex toy to penetrate her partner anally. While in practice anyone can wear a harness and a realistic dildo to fulfil fantasies and explore the pleasures of anal stimulation, the term "pegging" specifically refers to a man (or any body with a penis) being penetrated by a woman (or any body with a vagina).
This surprising practice challenges all the codes of traditional sex that impose a model of a woman being penetrated by a penetrating man. One thing is certain — the idea of giving it a try won't leave you indifferent.
Yet in contemporary society, attitudes are shifting, and grimaces are gradually giving way to curiosity and… arousal.
Today, pegging has become very trendy, particularly in pop culture and among couples in search of an uninhibited sexuality: it is now very much a male pursuit too.
A not-so-new sexual practice
In the realm of anal penetration, pegging is nothing new. It is said that the Romans (always them) were already indulging in it in the brothels of Pompeii. While the practice dates back to antiquity, it wasn't until the early 21st century that heterosexual anal sex was given a name.
In 2001, a major initiative was launched in the pages of thestranger.com by American writer, journalist and LGBT activist Dan Savage. It was high time to bring this sexual practice into the great erotic dictionary. Three terms were put forward, but it was the word "peg" that won the vote. Long live pegging!
Its initiator even believes that all men should try it at least once in their lives. Admittedly, Dan Savage's wish is still far from being fulfilled, but his initiative has the merit of breaking the ice and lifting the taboo around anal pleasure.
Gradually, pegging has carved out a place in popular culture. The most famous example is certainly the humorous nod to pegging* in the American blockbuster Deadpool.
Proof that the conversation is opening up!
* it wasn't until 2016 that the word "chevillage" made its way into the French erotic vocabulary.
Why try pegging?
Pegging — a sexual practice on the rise
While anal penetration for men has long been largely associated with gay men, stereotypes are gradually falling away: the practice is becoming increasingly popular regardless of sexual orientation !
Particularly appreciated by men and women in search of new sensations, pegging offers a new way to explore sexuality, free from hang-ups.
The Commercial Director of strap-on-me® confirms: "The conversation is opening up and taboos are completely falling away around pegging, which is an increasingly present, uninhibited and openly embraced practice." A trend reflected in the figures: "Our sales grew by 148% in Q1 2021 compared to the same period in 2020, and our forecasts are very optimistic," she continues.
So to meet this growing demand, the offering is evolving too. Gone are the vulgar, low-quality dildos — in their place come innovative strap-ons with elegant, ergonomic designs. Anal pleasure, yes — but with delicacy and pure sensuality.
And ideally, together! "Our customers are increasingly looking for products that put couple play first and foremost. Playing together is something that connects human beings and opens up emotional intimacy. In the current climate, people are looking to explore as a couple and find new ways to thrill each other, to discover new intimate rituals." Using a sex toy as a couple means giving yourselves an infinite playground for pleasure and discovery. Explore our range now.
Pegging, to discover new physical sensations
Sodomising your husband? Letting yourself be penetrated by your partner instead of engaging in traditional female sodomy? You may be wondering why some couples are so passionate about pegging. The reason is simple: because it opens the door to new sensations… and they bring a great deal of anal pleasure for men!
Men also have a G-spot — or rather a P-spot — hidden in the highly erogenous zone surrounding the prostate. Stimulation of the prostate gland can produce incredibly powerful orgasms, very different from the pleasure felt during ejaculation.
A perfect way to hit two birds with one stone on the path to nirvana!
In his book "Prostate: l'organe mystérieux qui vous veut du bien" (Ed. L'Opportun), Dr Patrick Papazian explains: "Unlike the penile orgasm, which is outward-facing, the prostatic orgasm is deep, internal, proceeding through micro-contractions up to the point of no return." In short, pegging allows men to experience a deeply feminine kind of orgasm.
For women too, pegging is an intensely pleasurable and entirely different experience. Indeed, the base of the dildo delights in stimulating the clitoris and can trigger multiple orgasms in a single session. A discovery that perfectly echoes what a guide to multiple orgasms allows you to explore in depth.
For fans of strap-ons*, the sensations are even more intense since the woman is also penetrated. Whether vibrating or not, strap-ons offer dual stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot. The guarantee of explosive orgasms!
But the benefits go far beyond simple physical pleasure. Pegging opens up new emotional pathways through the trust, intimacy and creativity it unlocks between partners. This playful role reversal offers a whole new experience.
*Had you noticed? Ironically, strap-on is an anagram of "no-parts" in English!
The pleasures of sexual reciprocity
Pegging also offers a unique sensory experience in the bedroom. With roles reversed, each partner steps out of their usual position and into the other's. And for some couples, the subversion of stereotypes linked to this sexual reciprocity with a hybrid dildo is enough to generate immense pleasure.
This time, it is the woman who takes on a more active and assertive role in the sexual act. She gets to enjoy the visual pleasure usually reserved for men. Yes, a little voyeurism is always exciting.
As for him, pegging allows him to let go and surrender to the pleasure of being penetrated. Since he is no longer in control of his sensations, he is more able to connect with his emotions and his feelings.
In this way, pegging offers the opportunity to explore one's sensuality by breaking traditional patterns of assigned roles between the sheets. It allows you to live your sexuality fully and free from gender pressure.
"Playing and reversing roles in play is something universal — it speaks to everyone, it appeals to everyone, regardless of age, gender, colour, race or sexual orientation," explains the Commercial Director of Strap-On-Me.
Yes, pegging can also be a little philosophical!
How to try pegging for the first time?
The essential key to embracing this uninhibited practice is communication! Consent between adults is absolutely fundamental when it comes to sexuality, so speak openly and give your partner the space to do the same.
Discover some practical tips to get started with pegging!
Talking openly about your desires with your partner
You're desperately curious about trying pegging, but you're nervous about how your partner might react? That's completely understandable — it's not the easiest subject to bring up.
Pegging involves a shift in roles that inevitably touches on one's self-image. Your man might feel his masculinity is being challenged, or your woman may not feel ready to revisit her femininity.
So, to break the ice, take it gently — avoid coming home with a strap-on and announcing to your partner: "darling, tonight I'm all yours".
You could, for example, introduce the idea lightly, then explain why it intrigues and excites you, and show your partner your favourite strap-on-me accessory.
Taking your time: exploring step by step
Patience and preparation are the watchwords for enjoying these playful couple's adventures.
Calmly discuss the details with your partner:
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Your preferred position: doggy style, reverse cowboy, etc.;
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Preparing your body and your desire with intimate gel, an erotic setting, etc.;
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Boundaries and agreeing on a word or gesture to stop things if needed.
What equipment should you choose to get started?
Choosing the right harness
Our motto: pleasure with elegance. There's no room for vulgarity here! So, when it comes to choosing your harness, we've selected the very best for comfort, quality and a touch of eroticism — to make you feel sexier than ever!
Choose a lingerie harness for enhanced comfort and a beautifully sensual look. Lace, suspenders and straps come together to offer you a chic and breathtaking pegging session.
For the more experienced, the faux leather harness is a firm favourite! Bold, a little daring and fully adjustable, it will reveal your deepest desires down to the finest detail.
Choosing the right plug or dildo to get started
To put it simply, three penetration options are available to you. Choose your item:
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a dildo for pegging : depending on your desires, it can stimulate the G-spot and P-spot, be semi-realistic, with a suction cup, realistic, or even a dildo that simulates ejaculation. Please note that, for partner play, you will need a strap-on harness to secure your dildo;
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a non-vibrating strap-on or anal plug dildo : the ideal solution for exploring new sensations as a couple. No harness needed, as the egg also penetrates your female partner and ensures a secure fit;
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a vibrating strap-on : to multiply your pleasure. These unique strap-ons are equipped with three motors that stimulate the G-spot, the clitoris and the P-spot, each controllable independently and remotely via a wireless controller.
Finally, if you're trying pegging for the first time, don't be too ambitious — opt for a smaller size. Choose a dildo for women and enjoy realistic, deeply satisfying sensations.
Ready to step through to the other side?
The importance of lubricant for comfort
Whatever your choice, from an XXL dildo to a suction cup dildo we recommend adding to your list a water-based anal lubricant (and water-based only if your toy is made of silicone), for smooth and comfortable penetration.
Ideal positions for getting started with pegging
Get into position for your pleasure by choosing when and, above all, how to indulge in this practice!
Simple and comfortable positions for beginners
New to pegging? Focus first on a comfortable and enjoyable position to maximise your pleasure.
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Doggy style: this classic position has no shortage of fans. The receiving partner gets on all fours, facing away, while their partner penetrates them from behind. Thanks to the deep penetration it allows, this position can take you to nirvana in no time;
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Spooning : a tender and delicate position, spooning — or the 99 position — lends itself beautifully to intimate, sensual moments. One partner lies on their side while the other nestles behind them for a smooth, caress-filled penetration. A variation involves lifting one leg for even greater pleasure;
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Cowgirl and reverse cowgirl : when it comes to dominance, the cowgirl position is a must. The partner sits astride their partner, who lies on their back. The ride can begin, with a breathtaking view of the dominant partner's pleasure-filled body. The reverse cowgirl variation involves sitting astride your partner, but facing away.
Explore at your own pace and according to your desires
Whatever position you choose and however long your session lasts, the key is to adapt the practice to your experience level and, above all, to your desires.
Don't hesitate to vary the positions to find the one that sweeps you off your feet — especially when you're just starting out with pegging!
Common mistakes to avoid when starting out with pegging
Don't rush things
Quick and done? No — pegging calls for slowing down and taking your time to ensure comfortable sensations for both partners.
Don't skip steps — find your rhythm without confusing speed with haste!
Neglecting post-experience communication
After a first pegging experience, it's essential to debrief with your play partner. Sharing what you enjoyed and what you didn't will help shape future sessions that are even more exhilarating.
Break down the taboos and share your doubts or desires with your partner — it's well worth it!
Choosing unsuitable equipment
Equipment matters when it comes to pegging. Take the time to explore the options and adjust them according to your experience level and your naughty desires. When it comes to accessories, the choices are endless — so are you ready to kit yourself out with a strap-on harness ?
The best way to find what suits you is still to try them out!
FAQ about pegging
So, what exactly is pegging?
Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman uses a strap-on to stimulate her male partner. It allows for prostate stimulation (the P-spot) and opens the door to new sensations by reversing traditional roles within a couple.
Which toy should you use to get started with pegging?
To begin this uninhibited sexual practice, you can choose between a dildo, a strap-on (harnessless strap-on or with harness), vibrating or non-vibrating, depending on your preferences.
The most important thing when you're a beginner is to start slowly, without biting off more than you can chew. Start with smaller toys and work your way up to larger ones as you gain experience.
Is pegging painful?
As with any sexual practice, pegging should never be painful! To avoid any discomfort, follow these tips:
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Adequate preparation: stimulation or massage of the anal area, for example;
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Open, uninhibited communication with your partner: expressing pleasure or, on the contrary, discomfort during the act;
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A suitable intimate gel: to ensure things go smoothly, using an intimate gel is essential. Check compatibility with your sex toy.
How do you talk to your partner about pegging?
While pegging may seem taboo, it's best approached with openness and ease! The key is to explain to your partner why you want to explore this side of your pleasure and shake up the routine.
Show them sex toys on our dedicated page, tell them how you'd like to go about it, and let them ask any question they feel is important — all of this encourages a positive experience built on trust!
