What is a dildo and how to use it effectively?

A timeless object of pleasure, the dildo transcends the ages without ever losing its power of attraction for women and men alike. At once simple and infinitely versatile, it accompanies the exploration of the body, alone or together, and adapts to every desire for stimulation, penetration and sensory discovery.

But concretely, what exactly is a dildo, and how can you make it a true ally of pleasure rather than just another sex toy gathering dust in a drawer?

Definition of a dildo

A dildo is a non-motorised sex toy, generally penis-shaped, designed for vaginal or anal penetration. Unlike a vibrator, it does not vibrate: everything rests on movement, rhythm, pressure and intention.

Historically, the dildo has existed since Antiquity. Objects made of stone, wood or leather have been found in Asia Minor and from the Middle Ages, used as much as objects of pleasure as symbols of fertility. Today, it has evolved into more refined silicone models, soft, safe and premium, designed for the comfort of every user.

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The variety of dildos available on Strap on me

The strap-on-me collection offers a wide range of dildos, designed for every body, every level and every practice. You can discover all our dildos directly in our online store.

By material

Medical-grade silicone is today's gold standard. It offers a supple, velvety, non-porous texture that is perfectly suited to intimate areas.

The Realistic Rotating Vibrating Dildo is the perfect example: a premium model that combines realism, suppleness and depth, ideal for those who seek sensations as close to reality as possible.

By shape and size

Straight shapes, curved for the G-spot, defined heads, subtle or more pronounced veins: the shape of the dildo directly influences the stimulation felt.

The Tapping Dildo Wave is one of our best sellers, a champion in its category. Its wavy shape and tapping motion offer a new approach to penetration — progressive and enveloping.

Double, suction cup and hybrid specialities

Some models push the classic boundaries, like the Bendable double density dildo. An adaptable dildo, fitted with a powerful suction cup, that conforms to your anatomy and allows for personalised exploration, whether solo or with a partner.

The Multi Orgasm Remote Controlled stands out as a true technological marvel, designed for power play and internal vaginal and anal stimulation.

How to choose your first dildo?

For a first purchase, it is better to opt for a reasonable size, a simple shape and a soft material. The goal is not performance, but the progressive exploration of sensations. A dildo that is too large or too firm can inhibit letting go and get in the way of pleasure.

Ask yourself the right questions to guide your choice: Are you looking for vaginal stimulation, anal stimulation, solo play or couple play? Does your body need softness, firmness or versatility?

The importance of intimate gel when using a dildo

Intimate gel is essential to transform the experience. It improves glide, protects the mucous membranes and intensifies sensations.

Strap-On-Me offers a selection of intimate gels compatible with silicone, ideal for vaginal or anal use. Hybrid intimate gels and massage gels, specially formulated for anal play or even scented varieties — you're sure to find exactly what you're looking for on our site!

A few drops are enough to elevate penetration from a simple gesture to a fluid and comfortable experience, free from friction or discomfort: use as often as you like for endless pleasure!

Using a dildo as a couple

Introducing a dildo into a couple's intimacy means opening a space for dialogue, trust and creativity. It can become an accessory for guidance, gentle domination or sensory sharing.

Combined with a strap-on harness, the dildo takes on a whole new dimension and allows you to explore practices such as pegging or role reversal.

To go further and push your boundaries, discover our technological marvel or explore the ejaculating dildo.

Our expert tips for an optimal experience

Before use: hygiene and preparation

Always clean your dildo before use, relax your body and take the time to prepare the setting by creating a relaxed and inviting atmosphere. A foreplay session is recommended before using a dildo.

During use: techniques and tips

Start slowly, listen to your sensations, play with angles and rhythm. Stimulation does not need to be fast to be intense. Learn to listen to your sensations and find what makes you soar.

After use: cleaning and storage

Careful cleaning with warm water and mild soap extends the product's lifespan. You can also use a dedicated sex toy cleaner. Keep it in a small storage pouch to protect it from dust and prying eyes…

Mistakes to avoid

Rushing, neglecting intimate gel or not listening to your sensations are the main barriers to pleasure with a dildo. These few tips will guarantee you a successful experience and a liberation from all your inhibitions.

Frequently asked questions about dildos 

What exactly is a dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy designed for penetration and intended to accompany the exploration of the body in a free and mindful way. Present in the history of sexuality for centuries, it has evolved into a modern, safe and comfortable object, today widely used by women, men and couples. 

Unlike other sex toys, it focuses on gesture, rhythm and connection to sensations, rather than technology. It can be used as a genuine tool for exploring pleasure, alone or with a partner.

What is the difference between a dildo and a vibrator?

The difference lies mainly in the way stimulation is delivered. The dildo works through movement and intention, while the vibrator acts through automatic vibrations. Both sex toys can be used separately or together, depending on desire and level of experience. 

Where a vibrator offers an immediate response, a dildo allows for a gradual build-up of sensations, often sought in a more sensory-led approach.

How do you choose the right size for a dildo?

The choice depends above all on your experience, your body and your desires. For beginners, it's advisable to start with a moderate size, allowing your body to adjust gently. Over time, and with a better understanding of your own sensations, you can explore larger models.

Is a dildo suitable for anal use?

Yes, certain models are specially designed for anal use, provided they have a secure base and are used with a good intimate gel. In this context, a dildo becomes a trusted tool, to be used with patience and communication, especially when shared with a partner.