How do you reach anal orgasm? 

Although it is still surrounded by prejudice, anal sex is becoming increasingly popular.

Today, more and more couples enjoy it, whether to explore a new form of sexuality or satisfy their curiosity. The figures do not lie: 49% of women say they have practised anal sex at some point in their lives, compared with 37% 20 years ago, according to an IFOP study.

If anal sex has so many enthusiasts, it is largely thanks to the pleasure it can bring. What if the most intense orgasm came from somewhere you did not expect?

Discover the secrets of this practice, which can still be taboo, and explore a few tips and ideas for reaching anal orgasm.

What is an anal orgasm?

Contrary to popular belief, anal sex is not reserved solely for same-sex couples. Anal sex is very common among heterosexual people and even among solo people who use anal plugs and sex toys, making it universal!

An anal orgasm is not very different from a vaginal or penile orgasm and follows the same mechanism: it is all about the art and way of bringing things together. Just as intense as its counterparts, it responds to stimulation of the anal area and is therefore accessible to everyone, whatever their gender or sexual orientation. 

The anus is an area highly conducive to orgasms, as it is made up of richly vascularised and innervated tissue. This sensitivity is explained by the presence of the pudendal nerve, which innervates the entire perineal region. Due to its location, the anus is particularly receptive to both external and internal stimulation.

Anal stimulation can be so powerful that it can also affect other erogenous zones, encouraging explosive orgasms:

• For people with a vulva, it can heighten sensations around the G-spot and A-spot; 

• For people with a penis, it stimulates the prostate (P-spot), an area known for delivering intense sensations;

• It can be combined with other forms of stimulation (clitoral or penile, for example).

Why is anal pleasure so intense?

The anus: an endless source of pleasure! 

The internal nerve endings in the anal area are particularly sensitive to sensations of pressure and stretching. But the anus is also highly responsive to external stimulation: rubbing, changes in temperature, caresses, and more.

From a physiological perspective, when stimulated, the pelvic muscles contract, especially during orgasm. The sphincter muscles relax and encourage anal dilation. This is what makes it possible to insert fingers, a penis or a sex toy without causing discomfort to the penetrated person.

Anal pleasure is also heightened by letting go and the thrill of the forbidden offered by this practice, which can still be taboo. The novelty and exploration of another form of pleasure can therefore intensify the ecstasy felt by partners who enjoy anal sex.

For people with a vulva

As surprising as it may seem, anal stimulation can awaken the G-spot and A-spot of people with a vulva through the vaginal wall. This practice is often described as more controlled and more intense: a real pleasure, all things considered!

The clitoris is not left out either: anal penetration stimulates its internal branches! This combination becomes another form of pleasure, bringing explosive, multiple and often deeper orgasms! 

For people with a penis

The prostate, or P-spot, is a true centre of sensation, located around 5 cm inside, within the rectum and accessible through the anus.

When it is properly stimulated, pleasure is often on the menu: slower, more enveloping, deeper. Prostate orgasm is often described by people with a penis as a wave spreading throughout the pelvis, and can hold some wonderful surprises: some enthusiasts report experiencing multiple orgasms.

Anal sex for people with a penis says nothing about who you are or your preferences. The pleasure you feel is all about anatomy!

How to reach anal orgasm: 4 key steps

To reach anal orgasm, good physical and mental preparation is essential. 

Relaxing and creating the right atmosphere

To relax this sensitive area and help release the sphincter, do not underestimate the importance of good mental preparation.

Creating an atmosphere that encourages relaxation can help you release your muscles and open your mind. Soft music, candles, massage, deep breathing, a bubble bath or dim lighting can all become your best allies.

You will then be free from all stress that could make the experience less enjoyable!

Using a suitable intimate gel

Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce natural lubrication. If you would like to try anal penetration, you should not skip a good intimate gel.

We recommend a water-based intimate gel, for its compatibility with silicone sex toys and condoms. When it comes to anal play, do not hold back on the amount of intimate gel, and reapply as often as needed. Too little intimate gel could cause discomfort.

strap-on-me has created a range of anal intimate gels ideal for this sexual practice, including the Mixgliss Max Expert model, an essential!

Start gently and progress gradually

As with other practices enjoyed together or solo, foreplay is essential when considering trying anal sex. 

Lots of gentleness and caresses make ideal foreplay for building arousal. When the body begins to relax, you can consider introducing one finger, then two, starting with the little finger so as not to rush. Then you can take things a step further by using sex toys specially designed for anal play, such as plugs or anal beads. 

By taking the time to progress gradually, dilation will happen little by little and comfort will be better supported. 

If you feel pain or change your mind, stop immediately: listening to your sensations and your body is essential.

Stimulating several areas at once

To reach orgasm, you can consider simultaneous stimulation. To do this, combine other erogenous zones with the anus, such as the clitoris, chest, perineum or penis.

A mixed orgasm, known as a blended orgasm, is described as more powerful than isolated stimulation alone.

The slow, yet deep back-and-forth technique can also hold some wonderful surprises.

What are the best positions for reaching anal orgasm? 

The Kamasutra lists many positions for having fun! Which are the best ones to try to reach a powerful, intense anal orgasm? 

Doggy style

Doggy style is a simple yet effective position. One partner gets on all fours, arching their back, while the other penetrates them standing up. 

Penetration is very deep and sensations are often at their peak! However, it is not recommended for those new to anal play, and is better suited to more experienced people.

Spooning

The spooning position combines sensuality, intimacy and tenderness. Both partners lie on their side, with the penetrated person in front of the person penetrating them.

Spooning allows the partner behind to caress the other’s body to increase relaxation and penetrate them gently. It is therefore particularly recommended for anal sex.

Cowgirl

Cowgirl, where the penetrated partner takes the lead, is a much-loved position for anal sex. 

Simply position yourself on top of your partner while they are lying down, as though you were straddling a mount, and move back and forth from front to back. 

Ideal for building confidence, the cowgirl position is also perfect for stimulating the clitoris or penis during sex. 

Lying on your back, legs raised

This position is perfect for stimulating the P-spot or G-spot of the penetrated person. Comfort is also at its highest, as they are lying down comfortably. The person penetrating can brace themselves against their partner’s legs for greater stability.

The depth and angle are ideal for satisfying anal penetration and full eye contact, fostering a beautiful sense of connection and stronger bonds.

Which sex toys should you use to explore anal orgasm?

To vary sensations, you can introduce sex toys for anal play.

Anal plugs and anal beads

To begin exploring anal penetration and become familiar with the feeling of fullness, anal plugs and anal beads are a great starting point. Their shape is designed for smooth insertion and lasting comfort.

With their flared base, plugs combine comfort and safety for complete control over your pleasure.

Anal beads, meanwhile, encourage gradual stimulation, with each one offering a new sensation.

For an experience that is both gentle and safe, choose silicone, silky to the touch and kind to the body.

Dildos and strap-ons for anal pleasure

Classic strap-ons turn pleasure into a true game of connection for two. They allow you to explore, guide, share a different kind of intensity and open up to new fantasies.

Pegging, when one partner penetrates their male partner with a strap-on, opens the door to sensations that are often unexpected, deep and powerful.

Some models of vibrating strap-on dildos or dual-stimulation models such as those from Strap-on-Me further enrich the experience, offering pleasure to both partners at the same time.

Prostate massagers

Prostate massagers are designed as an extension of the hand, with a precise curve that naturally follows the P-spot.

Stimulation then becomes more targeted, more enveloping, almost magnetic.

Some models come in a vibrating version:  sensations unfold intensely, inviting complete surrender.

What are the safety and hygiene guidelines?

As with any sexual practice, hygiene and safety should not be overlooked.

Hygiene and infection prevention

Anal penetration carries the same types of risks as vaginal penetration. To protect against STIs and sexually transmitted infections, using a condom is recommended. The anus may indeed contain bacteria.

If you combine practices and alternate between anal and vaginal sex, make sure to change condoms between the two. 

Finally, regular care of your sex toys, before and after use, is essential.

Listening to your body and communicating

Anal penetration should never be forced. The penetrated person can express discomfort or unease at any point during sex. Communicating, giving consent and sharing after the experience are key to anal sex built on trust, respect and pleasure.

In the event of pain or bleeding, stop immediately and consult a healthcare professional as soon as possible.

FAQ / Q&A on anal orgasm

Does anal orgasm hurt?

No, that is not true! 

It is normal to feel slight discomfort when you are new to anal penetration. That is why good lubrication, suitable preparation and a welcoming atmosphere are essential for enjoying anal sex.

By following all these steps, discomfort fades away and pleasure starts to appear! 

How should you prepare for anal sex?

Some people feel the need to prepare the anal area before sex by having an enema, but this is not essential.

Communicating with your partner, focusing on foreplay, taking your time and using the right products already provide an excellent foundation for optimal preparation.

Can you have an anal orgasm without penetration?

Of course! External stimulation can be just as pleasurable as penetration. Be imaginative: fingers, tongue, toys and caresses can all help lead your partner to the threshold of ecstasy.

What is the difference between anal orgasm and prostate orgasm?

It is all about anatomy! Anal orgasm comes from stimulating the nerve endings in the anus and can be felt by everyone. Prostate orgasm, meanwhile, is a more targeted form linked to stimulation of the prostate (P-spot), generally deeper, more enveloping and sometimes more intense, with waves of pleasure taking over the entire pelvis.

Which intimate gel should you use for anal pleasure?

A good water-based intimate gel is essential for anal penetration, especially because it is highly compatible with sex toys and condoms. Remember that when it comes to anal sex, you should not hold back on the amount! 

Can everyone have an anal orgasm?

Yes, anyone with an anus can have an anal orgasm. Man, woman, heterosexual or homosexual: this practice makes no distinction based on gender or sexual orientation. 

There is no single way to reach ecstasy: some people get there easily, while others need time, relaxation and experience.