How to use a dildo: complete guide by Strap-on-me®

A dildo is one of the most versatile and popular sex toys on the adult toy market. Whether you are in a relationship or playing solo, for soft BDSM or more intense experiences, there are countless ways to enjoy it and explore new sensations. 

But before embarking on this wonderful adventure, do not skip any steps! It is essential to choose your model carefully, prepare your body and adopt the right techniques for an experience that is as comfortable as it is pleasurable. 

Follow the guide and our expert advice: with Strap-on-me®, using a dildo becomes child’s play…

Choosing the right dildo before use

Before even fantasising about your next solo or shared play sessions, choose a model tailored to your practices and desires. 

At Strap-on-me®, we offer a wide collection of dildos, giving you every chance of finding your future pleasure ally:

• Suction-cup dildo: ideal for hands-free solo play and enjoying great freedom of movement thanks to its base, which can be secured to a flat surface such as a shower wall, floor, wall or headboard;

• Realistic dildo: this model, featuring visible veins and well-sculpted testicles, faithfully recreates the shape and texture of a penis for sensations as close to natural as possible and an experience that feels more real than life;

• Strap-on dildo: perfect for role play and enjoying pegging as a couple. Wondering what pegging is? It is penetration performed by a woman using a sex toy;

• Remote-controlled dildo: our remote-controlled sex toys are ideal for discreetly controlling your partner’s pleasure; 

• Double dildo: our double-penetration dildos are designed to share pleasure together, simultaneously.

For solo use, the suction-cup dildo is often a favourite. Thanks to its base, which adheres to many surfaces, users can enjoy intense, hands-free pleasure sessions without needing another person to join the play.

As a couple, strap-on dildos without a harness (or with one) and double dildos open up a world of possibilities and push the boundaries of shared pleasure.

Anal sex enthusiasts can opt for slim, gradual models such as an dildo anal plug, for example.

Finally, for vaginal pleasure, realistic or curved models (G-spot) are the most popular. To take realism even further, our ejaculating dildos promise an astonishing yet equally delightful experience!

Hygiene and preparation before using a dildo

When it comes to pleasure, preparing your body and equipment is the key to a successful experience.

Always make sure to: 

• Clean your dildo before each use with lukewarm water and mild soap or a special sex-toy cleaner;

• Use a quality intimate gel to avoid any discomfort or irritation.
  Mixgliss intimate gels are particularly recommended, as they are compatible with silicone sex toys and offer optimal glide;

• Do not neglect foreplay for a delightfully playful warm-up and a gradual build-up of arousal; 

• Choose a water-based intimate gel or one specifically designed for anal sex for anal play, always using a generous amount.

Techniques for using a dildo well

Using a dildo is not limited to penetration. Knowing the different areas to stimulate and the most effective techniques will enhance both your pleasure and your partner’s.

Vaginal stimulation (G-spot)

To stimulate the vagina, especially the G-spot, a slightly curved dildo is ideal. It will press against the front wall for maximum pleasure.

For satisfying vaginal stimulation, vary the movements, rhythm and intensity. Try slow, gradual penetration, internal rotations, targeted pressure or rhythmic thrusting.

Clitoral stimulation (external)

A dildo is not only for penetration. It can also be a powerful ally for stimulating and caressing your partner’s entire body and awakening their erogenous zones. Positioned correctly on the clitoris, it promises beautiful clitoral orgasms. Use it flat or in small circles to intensify pleasure.

Anal stimulation

When it comes to anal stimulation, the key is gradual progression. Depending on your level of experience, start with a slim, classic dildo. Be sure to apply intimate gel for anal play generously to reduce the risk of discomfort and/or pain. Gently explore penetration after foreplay focused on the anal area to relax the body, especially this sensitive area.

Prostate stimulation (P-spot)

For men, a dildo can stimulate the prostate : this is where the famous P-spot is found. To maximise your chances of orgasm, choose a curved model and insert it gently and gradually. 

Tip: change the angle of insertion, play with depth and make gentle rotations to vary the pleasures.

For even more pleasure, whatever your practice, try temperature play (warm the dildo under lukewarm water or cool it under cold water). Shivers of ecstasy guaranteed!

Couple’s play: how can you incorporate a dildo into your relationship? 

Before exploring new facets of your sexuality as a couple, the priority remains communication with your partner. It is essential that you are both willing to open up to this new experience.

Once you have agreed on the place sex toys will have in your lovemaking, explore the possible practices with these sex toys: 

• Strap-on dildo for pegging: allows a woman to penetrate her male partner;

• Hands-free suction-cup dildo: secure it to a chair or the floor to vary your positions;

• Double dildo: perfect for sharing penetration and pleasure simultaneously.

These toys open the door to deeper intimacy and new experiences and sensations.

After use: care

A well-maintained dildo lasts longer and remains body-safe.

A few care steps should be followed: 

• Wash it with lukewarm water and mild soap, or use a special sex-toy cleaner;

• Dry it carefully with a clean, dry cloth;

• Store it in a fabric pouch or box, away from dust and sunlight.

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Frequently asked questions about using a dildo

Can I use a dildo without intimate gel?

No, it is not recommended. It is best to use an intimate gel to reduce discomfort and micro-injuries, whatever your level of experience.

How do I know which dildo is right for me?

Choosing one dildo over another depends above all on your desires: 

• beginners tend to opt for slimmer models;

• more experienced users towards wider dildos;

• couples overwhelmingly favour vibrating or non-vibrating strap-on dildos for strap-on play or double models; 

• people who play solo often choose dildos fitted with a suction cup.

Can I use a dildo with my partner?

Absolutely! A dildo is an excellent ally for varying shared pleasures, whether for anal or vaginal stimulation. Before you get started, discover how to enjoy anal sex safely!

Can I use an anal dildo for vaginal stimulation?

It is best to avoid this. Use a separate dildo for anal and vaginal play to reduce the risk of infection.

You now have everything you need to use a dildo safely, with pleasure and creativity. Vaginal, anal or prostate stimulation, or an accessory to spice up your couple’s play: discover our different models and find THE dildo that will reinvent your sex life!