"How to use a dildo: complete guide by Strap-on-me®"

The dildo is one of the most versatile and popular sex toys on the adult market. Whether you're with a partner or enjoying solo pleasure, for soft BDSM play or more intense experiences, there are endless ways to enjoy it and explore new sensations.

But before you embark on this wonderful adventure, don't rush things! It's essential to choose the right model, prepare your body and adopt the right techniques for an experience that is as comfortable as it is pleasurable.

"Follow our guide and expert tips: with Strap-on-me®, using a dildo becomes child's play…"

Choosing the right dildo before use

Even before you start fantasising about your next solo or shared play sessions, select a model suited to your practices and desires.

At strap-on-me®, we offer an extensive dildo collection, giving you every chance of finding your future pleasure companion:

• Suction cup dildo: ideal for solo, hands-free play, offering great freedom of movement thanks to its base that can be fixed to a flat surface such as a shower wall, floor, wall or headboard;

• Realistic dildo: this model, featuring visible veins and well-sculpted testicles, faithfully reproduces the shape and texture of a male penis, for sensations as close to the real thing as possible and a truly lifelike experience;

• Strap-on dildo (strap-on): perfect for role play and for indulging in the joys of pegging as a couple. Wondering what pegging is? It's penetration performed by a woman using a sex toy;

• Remote-controlled dildo: our remote-controlled sex toys are ideal for controlling your partner's pleasure, with complete discretion;

• Double dildo : our double penetration dildos are designed to share pleasure simultaneously between two people.

For solo use, the suction cup dildo is often the top choice. Thanks to its base that adheres to many surfaces, users can enjoy intense, hands-free pleasure sessions without needing anyone else to join in.

As a couple, harnessless strap-on dildos (or with) and double dildos open up a world of possibilities and push the boundaries of shared pleasure.

Anal sex enthusiasts can turn to slim, progressive models such as an anal dildo plug, for example.

Finally, for vaginal pleasure, realistic or curved (G-spot) models are the most popular. To take realism even further, our ejaculating dildos promise a surprising yet thoroughly delightful experience!

Hygiene and preparation before using a dildo

When it comes to pleasure, preparing both body and equipment is the key to a successful experience.

Always make sure to: 

• Clean your dildo before each use with warm water and mild soap or a specialist sex toy cleaner;

• Use a quality lubricant to avoid any discomfort or irritation.
  Mixgliss lubricants are particularly recommended, as they are compatible with silicone sex toys and provide optimal glide;

• Don't neglect foreplay for an enjoyable warm-up and a gradual build-up of arousal;

• Choose a water-based lubricant or one specifically designed for anal play when practising anal sex, always in generous quantities.

Techniques for using a dildo properly

Using a dildo is not limited to penetration. Getting to know the different zones to stimulate and the most effective techniques will enhance your pleasure and that of your partner.

Vaginal stimulation (G-spot)

To stimulate the vagina and in particular the G-spot, a slightly curved dildo is ideal. It will press against the anterior wall for maximum pleasure.

For effective vaginal stimulation, vary your movements, rhythm and intensity. Try slow and gradual penetration, internal rotations, targeted pressure or rhythmic thrusting.

Clitoral stimulation (external)

A dildo is not just for penetration. It can also be a powerful ally for stimulating and caressing your partner's entire body, awakening their erogenous zones. Positioned against the clitoris, it promises beautiful clitoral orgasms. Use it flat or in small circular motions to intensify pleasure.

Anal stimulation

When it comes to anal stimulation, the key lies in gradual progression. Depending on your level of experience, start with a slim, classic dildo. Be sure to apply anal lubricant generously to minimise the risk of discomfort and/or pain. Gently explore penetration after foreplay targeted at the anal area to relax the body and this sensitive zone.

Prostate stimulation (P-spot)

For men, a dildo can stimulate the prostate : this is where the famous P-spot is located. To maximise your chances of reaching orgasm, choose a curved model and insert it gently and gradually.

Tip: vary the angle of insertion, play with the depth and make gentle rotations to discover new sensations.

For even more pleasure, whatever the practice, try temperature play (warm the dildo under lukewarm water or cool it under cold water). Shivers of ecstasy guaranteed!

Couples' play: how to incorporate a dildo into your relationship? 

Before exploring new facets of your sexuality as a couple, the priority above all remains communication with your partner. It is essential that you are both open and willing to embrace this new experience.

Once you have agreed on the role sex toys should play in your intimate moments, explore the possible practices with these sex toys:

• Strap-on dildo for pegging: allows a woman to penetrate her male partner;

• Hands-free suction cup dildo: fix it to a chair or the floor to vary positions;

• Double dildo: perfect for sharing penetration and pleasure simultaneously.

These experiences open the door to deeper intimacy and exciting new sensations.

After use: care and maintenance

A well-maintained dildo will last longer and remain safe for the body.

A few care steps should be observed: 

• Wash it with warm water and mild soap, or use a specialist sex toy cleaner;

• Dry it carefully with a clean, dry cloth;

• Store it in a fabric pouch or a box, away from dust and sunlight.

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Frequently asked questions about how to use a dildo

Can I use a dildo without lubricant?

No, it is not recommended. It is preferable to use a lubricant to limit discomfort and micro-abrasions, regardless of your level of experience.

How do I know which dildo is right for me?

The choice of one dildo over another depends above all on your desires: 

• beginners tend to opt for slimmer models;

• more experienced users towards wider dildos;

• couples widely favour vibrating strap-on dildos or non-vibrating ones for strap-on play, or double models;

• people who play solo very often choose dildos with a suction cup.

Can I use a dildo with my partner?

Absolutely! A dildo is an excellent ally for exploring new pleasures together, whether for anal or vaginal stimulation. Before getting started, discover how to practise anal sex safely!

Can I use an anal dildo for vaginal stimulation?

It is best to avoid this. Use a separate dildo for anal and vaginal play to reduce the risk of infection.

You now have all the tools you need to use a dildo safely, with pleasure and creativity. Vaginal, anal or prostate stimulation, or an accessory to spice up your couples' play: explore our different models and find THE dildo that will reinvent your sex life!