What is a dildo and how to use it effectively?

A timeless pleasure object, the dildo has spanned eras without ever losing its appeal for both women and men. Both simple and infinitely versatile, it accompanies body exploration, whether solo or as a couple, adapting to every desire for stimulation, penetration and sensory discovery. 

But in practice, what is a dildo, and how can you make it a true pleasure ally rather than just a sex toy left in a drawer?

Definition of a dildo

A dildo is a non-motorised sex toy, usually shaped like a penis, designed for vaginal or anal penetration. Unlike a vibrator, it does not vibrate: everything relies on movement, rhythm, pressure and intention.

Historically, dildos have existed since Antiquity. Objects made of stone, wood or leather were discovered in Asia Minor and from the Middle Ages, used as much as pleasure objects as symbols of fertility. Today, they have evolved into advanced silicone models that are soft, safe and premium, crafted for the comfort of every user.

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The varieties of dildos available on Strap On Me

The Strap-On-Me collection offers a wide variety of dildos, designed for all bodies, all experience levels and all practices. You can discover all our dildos directly on our online boutique.

According to material

Medical-grade silicone is the gold standard today. It offers a soft, velvety, non-porous texture that is perfectly suited to intimate areas.

The Rotating Vibrating Realistic Dildo is the perfect example: a premium model combining realism, flexibility and depth, ideal for those seeking sensations as lifelike as possible.

According to shape and size

Straight shapes, curved contours for the G-spot, defined heads, discreet or more pronounced veins: the shape of the dildo directly influences the sensations experienced.

The Tapping Dildo Wave is one of our best sellers, a champion in its category. Its undulating shape and tapping movement offer a fresh, progressive and enveloping approach to penetration.

Specialities: double, suction cup, hybrid

Some models push traditional boundaries, such as the Dual Density Bendable Dildo. A flexible dildo equipped with a powerful suction cup, adapting to your anatomy and enabling personalised exploration, both solo and as a couple.

The Remote-Controlled Multi Orgasm stands out as a true technological gem, designed for power play as well as internal vaginal and anal stimulation.

How to choose your first dildo?

For a first purchase, it is best to opt for a sensible size, a simple shape and a soft material. The goal is not performance, but the gradual exploration of sensations. A dildo that is too large or too rigid can hinder relaxation and spoil the mood.

Ask yourself the right questions to guide your choice: Are you looking for vaginal or anal stimulation, solo or as a couple? Does your body need softness, firmness or versatility?

The importance of intimate gel when using a dildo

Intimate gel is essential to transform the experience. It improves glide, protects delicate tissues and intensifies sensations.

Strap-On-Me offers a selection of silicone-friendly intimate gels, ideal for vaginal or anal use. Combining intimate gel and massage, specially formulated for anal play, or subtly scented, you are sure to find your perfect match on our boutique! 

A few drops are enough to turn penetration from a simple act into a smooth and comfortable experience, without friction or discomfort: use generously for endless pleasure!

Using a dildo as a couple

Introducing a dildo into a relationship opens up a space for dialogue, trust and creativity. It can become an accessory for guidance, gentle dominance or shared sensory exploration.

Paired with a strap-on harness, the dildo takes on a whole new dimension, allowing you to explore practices like pegging or role reversal.

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Our expert advice for the best experience

Before use: hygiene and preparation

Always clean your dildo before use, relax your body and take the time to set the scene by creating a relaxed, inviting atmosphere. A session of foreplay is recommended before using a dildo.

During use: techniques and tips

Start slowly, listen to your sensations, and experiment with angles and rhythm. Stimulation does not need to be fast to be intense. Learn to tune into your sensations and find the ones that take you to new heights.

After use: cleaning and storage

Thorough cleaning with warm water and mild soap will prolong the life of the product. You can also use a dedicated sex toy cleaner. Keep a small storage pouch handy to protect it from dust and inquisitive eyes…

Mistakes to avoid

Rushing, neglecting intimate gel, or not listening to your sensations are the main obstacles to pleasure with a dildo. These few tips will ensure a successful experience and help you let go of all taboos.

Frequently asked questions about dildos 

What exactly is a dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy designed for penetration and crafted to accompany bodily exploration freely and mindfully. Present throughout the history of sexuality for centuries, it has evolved into a modern, safe and comfortable object, now widely used by women, men and couples. 

Unlike other sex toys, it focuses on movement, rhythm and connection to sensations, rather than technology. It can be used as a true tool for learning pleasure, alone or with a partner.

What is the difference between a dildo and a vibrator?

The difference lies mainly in the way it stimulates. The dildo works through movement and intention, while the vibrator acts through automatic vibrations. Both sex toys can be used separately or together, depending on desires and experience level. 

Where a vibrator delivers an immediate response, a dildo allows for a gradual build-up of sensations, often sought after for a more sensory approach.

How to choose the right size dildo?

The choice depends above all on your experience, morphology and desires. For beginners, it is advisable to opt for a moderate size to let the body adjust gently. Over time, with a better understanding of your sensations, you will be able to explore larger models.

Is a dildo suitable for anal play?

Yes, some models are specially designed for anal play, provided they feature a secure flared base and are used with a good intimate gel. In this context, the dildo becomes a tool of trust, to be explored with patience and communication, especially when shared with a partner.