Pegging, translated as “chevillage” in French — less sexy, we’ll grant you that! — is a sexual practice well known to sex-toy enthusiasts, involving dildos, strap-ons or harnesses. This alternative way to enjoy pleasure as a couple has more and more devotees, and even those who have not tried it yet have certainly heard of it.
Let your partner take the reins of shared pleasure and discover our advice for getting started without taboos, modesty or vulnerability!
Pay attention: something tells us your sex life is about to change!
What exactly is pegging?
Definition of pegging
To give a clear definition of pegging, it is when a woman uses a sex toy to penetrate their partner anally. While in practice anyone can wear a harness and a realistic dildo for fantasy play and explore the pleasures of anal orgasm, the term “pegging” refers to a man (or any body with a penis) being penetrated by a woman (or any body with a vagina).
This surprising practice challenges every convention of traditional sex that imposes a model of a woman penetrated by a penetrating man. One thing is certain: the idea of trying it will not leave you indifferent.
Yet in contemporary society, attitudes are evolving, and grimaces are gradually giving way to curiosity and… excitement.
Today, pegging has become very trendy, particularly in pop culture and among couples seeking uninhibited sexuality: it is now becoming men’s business too.
A sexual practice that is not so new
In the realm of anal penetration, pegging is nothing new. Indeed, it is said that the Romans — always them — were already enjoying it in the brothels of Pompeii. Although the practice dates back to Antiquity, it was not until the beginning of the 21st century that heterosexual anal sex was given a name.
In 2001, a major initiative was launched in the pages of thestranger.com by American Dan Savage (author, journalist and LGBT activist). It was high time to bring this sexual practice into the great erotic dictionary. Three terms were suggested, but it was the word “peg” that won voters over. Long live pegging!
Its creator also believes that every man should try it at least once in their life. Of course, Dan Savage’s wish is still far from fulfilled, but his initiative has the merit of breaking the ice and lifting the taboo around anal pleasure.
Gradually, pegging is finding its place in popular culture. The most famous example is undoubtedly the humorous nod to pegging* in the American blockbuster Deadpool.
Proof that people are speaking more freely!
* It was not until 2016 that the word “chevillage” entered the French erotic vocabulary.
Why try pegging?
Pegging, a fashionable sexual practice
While anal penetration for men is widely associated with gay men, stereotypes are gradually falling away: the practice is becoming very popular regardless of sexual orientation!
Especially appreciated by men and women seeking new sensations, pegging offers a new way to approach sexuality, free from inhibitions.
The Sales Director of Strap-On-Me confirms: “People are speaking more freely and taboos around pegging are disappearing completely. It is an increasingly common, uninhibited and openly embraced practice.” A trend reflected in the figures: “Our sales rose by 148% in the first quarter of 2021 compared with the same period in 2020, and our forecasts are very optimistic,” she continues.
So, to meet this growing demand, the offering is evolving too. Gone are the vulgar, low-quality dildos; make way for innovative strap-ons, with elegant, ergonomic designs. Anal pleasure, yes, but with gentleness and voluptuousness.
And preferably as a couple! “Our customers are increasingly looking for products that above all celebrate couple’s play. Playing together is something that connects people and opens up emotional connection. In the current health context, couples are looking to explore together and find excitement in different ways, discovering new intimate rituals.”
Pegging, to discover new physical sensations
Penetrate your husband? Let yourself be penetrated by your partner instead of enjoying traditional female anal sex? You may be wondering why some couples love pegging. The reason is very simple: it allows you to discover new sensations… and they bring men a great deal of anal pleasure!
Men also have a G-spot — or rather, a P-spot — hidden in the highly erogenous area around the prostate. Stimulating the prostate gland can trigger very powerful orgasms, quite different from the pleasure felt during ejaculation.
The perfect way to kill two birds with one stone and reach nirvana!
In his book, “Prostate: the mysterious organ that means you well" (Ed. L’Opportun), Dr Patrick Papazian explains: "Unlike penile orgasm, which is outward-facing, prostatic orgasm is deep and internal, occurring through micro-contractions until the point of no return.” In short, pegging allows men to experience a very feminine orgasm.
For women too, pegging can be extremely pleasurable and different. Indeed, the base of the dildo can stimulate the clitoris and trigger several orgasms during one and the same encounter.
For lovers of strap-ons*, sensations are even more intense, as the woman is penetrated too. Whether vibrating or not, strap-ons offer double stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot. A guarantee of explosive orgasms!
But the benefits go far beyond physical pleasure alone. Pegging opens up new emotional pathways through the trust, connection and creativity it unlocks between partners. This playful role reversal offers a whole new experience.
*Did you notice? Ironically, strap-on is an anagram of “no-parts” in English!
The pleasures of sexual reciprocity
Pegging also offers an unprecedented sensory experience in the bedroom. With roles reversed, each partner steps out of their usual position and into the other’s. For some couples, simply overturning the stereotypes associated with this sexual reciprocity with a hybrid dildo is enough to bring immense pleasure.
This time, it is the woman who takes a more active and assertive role in the sexual act. She gets to enjoy the view usually reserved for men. Yes, yes, a little voyeurism is always exciting.
For him, pegging allows him to let go and surrender to the pleasure of being penetrated. Since he is no longer in control of his sensations, he is better able to connect with his emotions and sensations.
In this way, pegging offers the opportunity to explore your sensuality by breaking traditional patterns of the roles assigned beneath the sheets during lovemaking. It allows you to experience your sexuality fully, free from gender pressure.
“Play and reversing roles in a game is something universal, something that speaks to everyone and appeals to everyone, regardless of age, gender, colour, race or sexual orientation,” explains the Sales Director of Strap-On-Me.
Yes, pegging can also be a little philosophical!
How do you try pegging for the first time?
The essential thing for introducing this uninhibited practice is communication! Consent between adults is essential in sexuality, so it is important to express yourself freely and let your partner do the same.
Discover a few practical tips to get started with pegging!
Talking openly about your desires with your partner
You really want to try pegging, but are worried about your partner’s reaction? That is perfectly normal; it is not an easy subject to bring up.
Pegging involves a role reversal that inevitably affects self-image. Your man may therefore feel his masculinity is being challenged, or your woman may be reluctant to revisit her femininity.
So, to break the ice, take it gently and avoid coming home with a strap-on and saying to your partner, “Darling, tonight I’m all yours.”
You could, for example, introduce the idea in a light-hearted way, then explain why it intrigues and excites you, and show your partner your favourite Strap-On-Me accessory.
Take your time: explore step by step
Patience and preparation are the watchwords for enjoying these playful couple’s games.
Approach the heart of the matter calmly with your partner:
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Your preferred position: doggy style, reverse cowgirl, and so on;
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Preparing your body and desire with intimate gel, an erotic setting, and so on;
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Boundaries and agreeing on a word or gesture to stop things if needed.
What equipment should you choose to get started properly?
Choosing a suitable harness
Our motto: pleasure with elegance. There is no room for vulgarity here! So, when choosing your harness, we have selected the very best, combining comfort, quality and a touch of eroticism to make you sexier than ever!
Choose a lingerie harness for enhanced comfort and a look full of sensuality. Lace, garters and straps come together to offer you a chic, breathtaking pegging session.
For the more experienced, the faux-leather harness is all the rage! Bold, a little playful and adjustable, it will reveal your desires in every detail.
Choosing the right plug or dildo to get started
Simply put, three penetration options are available to you. Choose your item:
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a dildo for pegging: depending on your desires, it can stimulate the G-spot and P-spot, be semi-realistic, suction-cup, realistic, or even a dildo that simulates ejaculation. Please note that, for play as a couple, you will need a strap-on harness to secure your dildo;
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a non-vibrating strap-on or anal plug dildo : the ideal solution for exploring new sensations together. No harness is needed, as an egg also penetrates your female partner and ensures a secure fit;
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a vibrating strap-on: to heighten your pleasure. These strap-ons unlike any other are fitted with three motors that stimulate the G-spot, clitoris and P-spot, each controlled separately and remotely with a remote control.
Finally, if you are trying pegging for the first time, do not be too ambitious, and opt for a smaller size.
Ready to step through to the other side?
The importance of intimate gel for comfort
Whatever your choice, whether an XXL dildo or a suction-cup dildo, we recommend adding a water-based anal intimate gel to your list (and only water-based if your toy is silicone), for gentle penetration.
Ideal positions for getting started with pegging
Take a position for your pleasure by choosing when, and above all how, you want to enjoy this practice!
Simple, comfortable positions for beginners
Are you new to the art of pegging? Above all, choose a comfortable, pleasurable position to heighten your pleasure.
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Doggy style: this famous position has countless fans. The penetrated partner gets on all fours, facing away, while their partner penetrates them. Thanks to the deep penetration it offers, this position can take you to nirvana in the blink of an eye ;
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Spooning : a tender, delicate position, spooning or the 99 position makes intimate, sensual moments easier. The first partner lies on their side, with the second behind them for smooth penetration full of caresses. One variation involves lifting a leg for even more pleasure;
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Cowgirl and reverse cowgirl : when it comes to dominance, the cowgirl position is a must. One partner sits on top of the other, who is lying on their back. Then the ride can begin, with an unobstructed view of the dominant partner’s pleasure-filled body. The reverse cowgirl variation involves sitting on your partner, but facing away.
Explore according to each person’s comfort and desire
Whatever position you choose and however long your lovemaking lasts, the key is to adapt the practice to their level of experience and, above all, their desire.
Do not hesitate to vary the positions to find the one that sweeps you away, especially when you are new to pegging!
Mistakes to avoid when getting started with pegging
Do not rush things
A quick bit of pleasure? No, pegging requires slowing down to ensure comfortable sensations for each partner.
Do not skip steps, and adjust the pace of your exploration without confusing speed with haste!
Neglecting post-play communication
After a first pegging experience, it is essential to talk with your play partner. Sharing what you enjoyed and what you enjoyed less will help set the scene for even more breathtaking sessions to come.
Break down taboos and share your doubts or desires with your partner : it is worth it!
Choosing unsuitable equipment
Equipment matters when practising pegging. Take the time to look at the options and adjust them to your level of experience and your playful desires. When it comes to accessories, there is no shortage of choice: so, are you ready to equip yourself with a strap-on harness?
The best way to find the perfect fit is still to try them on!
Pegging FAQ
Which toy should you use to start pegging?
To begin this uninhibited sexual practice, you can choose between a dildo, a vibrating or non-vibrating strap-on (strap-on without a harness or with one), depending on your preferences.
The most important thing when you are new to this is to start gently, without biting off more than you can chew. Begin with smaller toys and move on to larger sex toys as you gain experience.
Is pegging painful?
As with any sexual practice, pegging should never be painful! To avoid discomfort, follow these tips:
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Suitable preparation: stimulation or massage of the anal area, for example;
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An open, taboo-free dialogue with your partner: expressing your pleasure or, conversely, any discomfort during play;
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A suitable intimate gel: for things to go smoothly, using an intimate gel is essential. Check that it is compatible with your sex toy.
How do you talk to your partner about pegging?
While pegging may seem taboo, it is best to approach it calmly and without embarrassment! The key is to explain to your partner why you want to explore this side of your pleasure and break the routine.
Show them sex toys on our dedicated page, tell them how you would like to proceed and let them ask any questions they consider essential: all of this encourages confident, enjoyable exploration!
