What is a dildo and how do you use it effectively?

A timeless object of pleasure, the dildo transcends eras without ever losing its power of attraction for both women and men. Both simple and infinitely adaptable, it accompanies the exploration of the body, alone or with a partner, and adapts to all desires for stimulation , penetration , and sensory discovery.

But what exactly is a dildo , and how can you make it an ally of pleasure rather than just a sex toy sitting in a drawer?

Definition of a dildo

A dildo is a non-motorized sex toy , usually penis-shaped, designed for vaginal or anal penetration . Unlike a vibrator , it does not vibrate: everything relies on movement, rhythm, pressure, and intention.

Historically, the dildo has existed since antiquity. Objects made of stone, wood, or leather have been found in Asia Minor and during the Middle Ages, used both as objects of pleasure and as symbols of fertility. Today, it has evolved into more sophisticated models made of silicone , soft, safe, and high-end, designed for the comfort of each user.

Comparison chart: Dildo vs. Vibrator

Dildo	Vibrator
Manual stimulation	Motorized stimulation
Total control of the rhythm	Programmed vibrations
Ideal for penetration	Focused on the clitoris or targeted areas
Gradual sensations	Immediate, intense sensations

The varieties of dildos available on Strap On Me

The Strap-On-Me collection offers a wide variety of dildos , designed for all body types, skill levels, and practices. You can discover All our dildos are available directly in our online shop.

According to the material

Medical-grade silicone is the gold standard today. It offers a soft, velvety, non-porous texture perfectly suited to intimate areas.

The Vibrating Rotating Realistic Dildo is the perfect example: a premium model that combines realism, flexibility and depth, ideal for those seeking sensations as close to reality as possible .

Depending on the shape and size

Straight shapes, curved for the G-spot , marked heads, discreet or more pronounced veins: the shape of the dildo directly influences the stimulation felt.

The Tapping Dildo Wave It is one of our best sellers, a champion in its category. Its wavy shape and tapping motion offer a new approach to penetration, progressive and enveloping.

Specialty double, suction cup, hybrid

Some models push the boundaries of traditional design, such as the double-density bendable dildo . This modular dildo, equipped with a powerful suction cup, adapts to the anatomy and allows for personalized exploration, whether alone or with a partner.

The Remote Controlled Multi Orgasm stands out as a true technological marvel , designed for power games and internal vaginal and anal stimulation.

How to choose your first dildo?

For a first purchase, it's best to choose a reasonable size , a simple shape , and a soft material . The goal isn't performance, but the gradual exploration of sensations. A dildo that's too large or too rigid can hinder relaxation and spoil the fun.

Ask yourself the right questions to guide your choice: Do you want vaginal or anal stimulation, alone or with a partner? Does your body need gentleness, firmness, or versatility?

The importance of lubricant when using a dildo

Lubricant is essential to transform the experience. It improves glide, protects mucous membranes , and intensifies sensations.

Strap-On-Me offers a selection of Silicone-compatible lubricants , ideal for vaginal or anal use. Mixed lubricant and massage lubricants, specially designed for anal sex, or even scented ones – you're sure to find what you're looking for on our site!

Just a few drops are enough to transform penetration from a simple gesture into a smooth and comfortable experience , without friction or discomfort: use without moderation for endless pleasure!

Using a dildo as a couple

Introducing a dildo into a relationship opens up a space for dialogue, trust, and creativity. It can become a tool for guidance, gentle domination, or sensory sharing.

Combined with a Harness for strap-on dildo , the dildo takes on a whole new dimension and allows you to explore practices like pegging or role reversal.

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Our expert tips for an optimal experience

Hygiene and preparation before use

Always clean your dildo before use , relax your body, and take the time to prepare the environment by creating a relaxed and conducive atmosphere. A session of foreplay is recommended before using a dildo.

During use: techniques and tips

Start slowly, listen to your sensations, play with angles and rhythm. Stimulation doesn't need to be fast to be intense. Learn to listen to your sensations and find the ones that make you soar.

After use, clean and store

Careful cleaning with warm water and mild soap prolongs the product's lifespan. You can also use a sex toy cleaner. Consider a small storage pouch to keep it protected from dust and prying eyes.

Mistakes to avoid

Rushing, neglecting lubricant, or ignoring your body's signals are the main obstacles to pleasure with a dildo. These few tips will guarantee a successful experience and help you break free from all your inhibitions.

Frequently asked questions about dildos

What exactly is a dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy designed for penetration and intended to accompany the free and conscious exploration of the body. Present in the history of sexuality for centuries, it has evolved into a modern, safe, and comfortable object, now widely used by women, men, and couples.

Unlike other sex toys, it focuses on movement, rhythm, and connecting with sensations, rather than technology. It can be used as a genuine tool for learning about pleasure, alone or with a partner.

What is the difference between a dildo and a vibrator?

The main difference lies in the method of stimulation. A dildo works through movement and intention, while a vibrator operates through automatic vibrations. Both sex toys can be used separately or together, depending on desires and experience level.

Where the vibrator offers an immediate response, the dildo allows for a gradual build-up of sensations, often sought in a more sensory approach.

How to choose the right size for a dildo?

The choice depends primarily on your experience, body type, and preferences. To begin, it's advisable to opt for a moderate size to allow your body to adjust gradually. With time and a better understanding of your body's sensations, you can explore larger models.

Is a dildo suitable for anal use?

Yes, some models are specifically designed for anal use, provided they have a secure base and are used with a good lubricant. In this context, the dildo becomes a reliable tool, to be handled with patience and communication, especially when shared with a partner.