How to have anal sex? A complete guide to getting started gently

Sodomy is a sexual practice surrounded by taboos. Stereotypes about anal penetration die hard!

However, when practiced correctly, it transforms your lovemaking into an intense source of pleasure and intimacy between the two partners and can even allow you to discover new experiences such as the practice of soft BDSM.

But before taking the plunge, many people, especially those new to the subject, wonder about the best approach to practicing painless anal sex , the type of preparation required, or the best positions to adopt during a first anal experience.

Strap-on-me gives you all the keys to success to approach this practice gently, respectfully, and safely. Follow the guide!

Sodomy in brief

Preparation is key to anal sex! This is especially true when you're new to it. To prepare properly, don't neglect:

• The use of a water-based lubricant to improve glide and increase comfort;

• The introduction : gentle and sensual preliminaries based on languorous kisses and playful caresses, followed by progressive penetration with fingers or small sex toys;

• Communication with one's partner : as with any sexual practice, consent and respect for the other person's desire are essential.

The key lies above all in finding the right balance to limit discomfort for both the person being penetrated and the person penetrating them.

Note that sodomy doesn't necessarily require a penis. Do you know what pegging is? Anal penetration of a woman using a strap-on dildo! When it comes to sodomy, anything goes!

Who is sodomy for?

Although sodomy has long been associated with homosexual people (especially two male partners), it is not reserved for a specific audience: it is open and accessible to everyone, man, woman, heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual, provided that it is practiced with total respect and mutual trust.

The choice is yours and should never be an obligation or a decision made under duress. Daring to explore it sometimes means breaking a taboo, but above all, it opens a new door to intimacy within a couple.

What pleasures does anal penetration bring?

Like the vagina, the anal area has an infinite number of nerve endings, offering just as many chances to get your rocks off!

If sodomy is appealing to both sexes, it's because of its incredible ability to stimulate numerous pleasure zones:

• In men : sodomy directly stimulates the prostate, also called

• Point P, a true source of intense orgasms;

• In women : anal penetration exerts internal pressure that indirectly stimulates the vagina and clitoris. Combined with vaginal penetration, it promises a one-way trip to the gates of ecstasy…;

• For couples : beyond physical pleasure, sodomy strengthens the bond and connection between the two partners, because it requires trust, listening and communication.

How to prepare your body for your first anal sex experience?

While the practice is primarily a matter of feelings, good preparation before an anal experience is advised.

Hygiene

Opinions differ regarding the preparation of the anal area before anal sex. Some prefer to use an enema, while others opt for a shower to clean themselves.

However, the preparation should remain light and comfortable for everyone.

Food

Before anal sex, avoid heavy or spicy meals, as they can cause discomfort or bloating that restricts your movements. This also applies to any other sexual activity! Opt for a light meal.

Psychological preparation

The mind plays a central role in anal sex. To experience maximum pleasure, there's no secret: you need to be relaxed, attuned to yourself and your partner. Communication is essential: express your desires, fears, and boundaries.

Why is lubricant essential?

Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce any natural lubrication. Attempting anal sex without lubricant therefore significantly increases the risk of pain, irritation, or injury.

To make the best choice, select your lubricant:

• Water-based : very easy to clean, it is compatible with a large majority of sex toys such as our harness-less strap-on dildos or our ejaculating dildos and condoms, but may dry out faster;

• Made from silicone : it offers long-lasting glide and is therefore perfect for extended intercourse. However, it is not compatible with silicone sex toys, which limits its uses;

• Hybrid (water + silicone) : this lubricant combines comfort and durability, making it a very good compromise compared to its two counterparts.

The golden rule when it comes to lubricant is: less is more! Apply it generously, and reapply as needed during intercourse.

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Our practical tips for a successful experience

For a pleasant and comfortable experience, proceed step by step:

• Start with caresses and massages : the anus is sensitive, take the time to properly prepare and relax the area;

• Use your fingers or small sex toys : a thin dildo, an anal plug, or a finger can gradually prepare the body to receive a penis. Take a look at our collection of dildos !

• Choose the right position : Spooning, for a gentle start, the doggy style position for good control, or the modified missionary position for prolonged eye contact and appreciable intimacy.

Frequently asked questions about how to perform anal sex

Can I practice sodomy without lubricant?

No, the use of lubricant is essential during anal sex to avoid pain and discomfort.

Is there a risk of pain?

The first experience may require some adjustment. However, with good preparation and by taking your time, the fun will soon be there!

What sex toys can I use to train?

Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sex toys. However, as a beginner, you can try anal plugs, thin dildos, or anal beads to gradually discover new sensations.

Can I practice sodomy during my period?

Many women continue to have sexual intercourse during their periods. Anal sex is not contraindicated during menstruation, but it largely depends on each woman's preference.

Can I have an anal orgasm?

In men, anal sex stimulates the prostate, while in women, it provides indirect stimulation of the vagina and clitoris. Both partners engaging in this practice can therefore easily achieve anal orgasm.

Conclusion

Knowing how to perform anal sex rests on three pillars: preparation, communication, and lubrication. With these elements combined, this practice can become a true source of shared pleasure and intimacy. Don't be afraid to take your time, explore, and above all, respect your desires.