Want to explore your sensuality gently? Soft BDSM is an ideal gateway to discover the world of BDSM without brutality.
Bondage and discipline, domination and submission (BD), sadomasochism (SM) plays with the boundaries of pleasure, while bringing a touch of daring to your encounters and foreplay.
Follow the guide and enjoy sensual and complicit experiences, with total respect for yourself and others, free from inhibition, especially if you are curious to explore how to achieve multiple orgasms through gentle and progressive practices.
Open the door to BDSM — you won't be disappointed…
What is soft BDSM?
Soft bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadomasochism is a form of BDSM centred on gentleness, communication and tenderness, while sometimes allowing a dominant woman to express her confidence without ever crossing the limits set together.
Far from its reputation as an aggressive sexual practice in the service of pain, it includes playful scenarios and varied, adaptable accessories such as light restraint, caresses and gentle role play, while avoiding intense pain or extreme play.
The aim: to stimulate partners' senses and explore domination and submission in a safe and caring environment.
Why try soft BDSM?
Soft BDSM is aimed at those who wish to spice up their sex life in their own way with playful and sensual power games, with the aim of:
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exploring fantasies without fear and breaking down every taboo;
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strengthening trust and communication within the couple;
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discovering new sensations for oneself, but also for the other;
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building an intense and unprecedented emotional bond.
- Moreover, the practice of pegging offers a unique opportunity for two partners to forge an extraordinary bond and reach orgasm, while fitting perfectly within the spirit of soft BDSM.
Best practices for getting started with soft BDSM
Before diving into BDSM, it's important to take it one step at a time or risk turning this new experience into a nightmare. Bear in mind that, as a shared sexual practice, you will need to prioritise communication and trust, respect the notion of consent, and also take things gently.
Communication
First and foremost, talk! Share your desires, your fears and your expectations with your partner. Soft BDSM is built on transparent and caring communication before and after the experience.
Put your desires into words and set boundaries from the outset.
Trust
Trust between partners — whether a man and a woman or two partners of the same sex — is the foundation of any BDSM experience. Create a reassuring and attentive atmosphere, free from judgement, for yourself and your play partner. The key is to feel heard and understood, even as desire grows ever more intense.
Mutual consent
Nothing should happen without the clear and repeated consent of each person. Use a safe word to frame your play and to know when to pause.
And remember, no always means no!
Creating the right atmosphere for an exciting sensory awakening
Choose a comfortable space, dim the lights, use an anal intimate gel for maximum pleasure and unparalleled comfort
In a carefully chosen and personalised setting, where no detail is left to chance, half the journey will already be mapped out and all that's left is to let yourself go in complete relaxation.
Progress gradually
Start with simple experiences before moving on to more intense play.
Favour gentle and progressive foreplay to avoid rushing things and prepare the ground gradually.
BDSM is full of daring practices, but you will need to build up gradually so that the experience is not in the least traumatic, but on the contrary thoroughly enjoyable! One example of a soft BDSM practice is anal penetration. If you're wondering how to have anal sex without pain, our comprehensive guide answers all your questions.
Difference between soft BDSM and hard BDSM
The difference between soft BDSM and hard BDSM lies in both the intensity of the chosen sexual practices and the equipment selected.
While soft BDSM focuses on gentleness, play and sensuality, hard BDSM in fact explores more intense sensations: pain, physical restraint, consensual humiliation...
In its soft version, BDSM focuses on more measured types of practices such as:
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Light bondage;
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Spanking and sensual massages;
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The use of martinets or whips with controlled strokes;
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Role play.
The aim is to create a context of submission and domination, but with gentleness, to fulfil one's desires without crossing any boundaries.
Conversely, hard BDSM includes :
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More complex bondage;
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More intense flagellation;
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Power dynamics with the total submission of one's partner;
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Torture instruments.
The aim is to push further towards the extreme in order to take one's sensations and emotions to their peak. This practice is essentially reserved for the initiated — one cannot embark on a BDSM journey by immediately opening oneself to its "hard" variant.
Our tips for guaranteeing a successful experience
Gentle control play
For a beautiful introduction that is as sensual as it is gentle, equip yourself with a blindfold. Place it over your partner's eyes and let the magic happen.
To explore light submission, get yourself a Leash Kit & Dildo Ring : a perfect immersion into the world of submission.
Want to push open the doors of unspoken desire? The pegging harness will fulfil your every desire during a role reversal filled with tenderness and sensuality.
Strapless strap-on
For stimulation that blends freedom and comfort, equip yourself with a strapless strap-on.
Lingerie or faux leather : add a touch of elegance to your intimate play with one of our signature products featuring a sexy design.
Realistic dildos
Dildos are perfect for deep, controlled pleasure. Hybrid and plug dildos, realistic or semi-realistic, ejaculating dildos and even double dong: Ali Baba's cave opens wide for you to go deep, without inhibition!
Vary your pleasures and practices to head straight for nirvana!
Soft BDSM is a journey of self-discovery and discovery of the other. Through respect, attentiveness and tenderness, it opens up an infinite field of possibilities for your intimate life, in complete safety.
So, ready to take the plunge and push the boundaries of your pleasure?
FAQ on soft BDSM
What is the best type of harness for beginner pegging?
To start pegging, choose a simple, comfortable and adjustable harness. It provides support and freedom of movement to explore gently and safely, while fostering intimacy between partners.
What are SM practices?
SM, an acronym for sadomasochism, encompasses many couple practices and dynamics that explore an entirely different dimension of shared pleasure.
Popularised by the film Fifty Shades of Grey, SM encompasses a range of activities such as:
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Punishment;
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Sadism;
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Masochism;
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Role play;
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Setting up scenarios with a partner.
BDSM, which stands for "bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism", is a derivative of it, but differs in the intensity of the practices and the degree of submission.
What is the history of BDSM?
BDSM traces its origins to antiquity. It is in Mesopotamia that we find the earliest traces of this practice. The goddess Inanna, whose body was adorned with precious stones, asked her disciples to perform a dance for her. As the dance grew in intensity, Inanna would whip them amidst excitement and sexual frenzy.
In ancient Greece, flagellation was also commonplace.