Soft BDSM: The Beginner's Guide

Want to explore your sensuality gently? Soft BDSM is an ideal entry point to discover the world of BDSM without brutality. 

Bondage and discipline, domination and submission (BD), sadomasochism (SM) plays with the boundaries of pleasure, while adding a touch of boldness to your lovemaking and foreplay.

Follow the guide and enjoy sensual and intimate experiences, with complete respect for yourself and your partner, free of inhibitions.

Open the door to BDSM, you won't be disappointed…

What is soft BDSM?

Soft bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadomasochism is a form of BDSM focused on gentleness, communication, and tenderness. 

Far from its reputation as an aggressive, pain-centered sexual practice, it includes playful scenarios and various adaptable accessories like light restraints, caresses, and soft role-playing games, while avoiding intense pain or extreme play. 

The goal: stimulate the partners' senses and explore domination and submission in a safe and caring environment.

Why try soft BDSM?

Soft BDSM is for those who want to spice up their sex life with playful and sensual power games, aiming to:

• explore fantasies without fear and lift all taboos; 

• strengthen trust and communication in the couple; 

• discover new sensations for oneself and for the other; 

• build an intense and unprecedented emotional connection.

Best practices for starting soft BDSM

Before diving into BDSM, it's important to take things step by step to avoid turning the experience into a nightmare. Keep in mind that as a shared sexual practice, you must prioritize communication and trust, respect the concept of consent, and proceed gently.

Communication

Above all, talk! Share your desires, fears, and expectations with your partner. Soft BDSM is built on transparent and caring communication before and after the experience.

Put words to the desires that drive you and set boundaries from the start.

Trust

Trust between man and woman or two same-sex partners is the foundation of any BDSM experience. Create a reassuring, non-judgmental environment for you and your playmate. The key is to feel heard and understood, even as desire intensifies.

Mutual consent

Nothing should happen without clear and ongoing consent from both parties. Use a safe word to guide your play and know when to pause. 

And remember, no always means no!

Create the right atmosphere for exciting sensory awakening

Choose a comfortable setting, dim the lights, and use an anal lubricant for maximum pleasure and unmatched well-being 

In a well-chosen and personalized context, where no detail is left to chance, half the journey is already paved and all that’s left is to let go completely.

Progress gradually

Start with simple experiences before moving on to more intense play.

Opt for gentle and progressive foreplay so as not to rush things and to prepare the ground gradually.

BDSM has no shortage of bold practices, but you should proceed step by step so the experience is not traumatic, but rather enjoyable!

Difference between soft and hard BDSM

The difference between soft and hard BDSM lies both in the intensity of the chosen sexual practices and the selected gear. 

While soft BDSM emphasizes gentleness, play, and sensuality, hard BDSM explores more intense sensations: pain, physical restraints, consensual humiliation...

In its soft version, BDSM focuses on more moderate practices such as: 

• Light bondage;

• Spanking and sensual massages;

• Using floggers or whips with controlled strikes;

• Role-playing games.

The goal is to create a domination-submission context, but gently, to fulfill desires without crossing boundaries.

Conversely, hard BDSM involves: 

• More complex bondage;

• Stronger flagellation;

• Power dynamics with complete submission of the partner;

• Torture instruments.

The aim is to go further into the extreme to push sensations and emotions to their peak. This practice is mainly reserved for the experienced, and one should not dive into BDSM by starting with its “hard” version.

Our tips to ensure a successful experience

Gentle control play

For a soft and sensual introduction, use a blindfold. Place it over your partner’s eyes and let the magic happen.

To explore light submission, get a Leash & Dildo Ring Kit: a perfect immersion into the world of submission.

Want to push the doors of unspoken desire? The pegging harness will delight you during a gentle and voluptuous role reversal.

Strapless strap-on

For stimulation filled with freedom and comfort, equip yourself with a strapless strap-on. 

Lingerie or faux leather: add a touch of elegance to your play with one of our sexy-design bestsellers.

Realistic dildos

Dildos are perfect for deep, controlled caresses. Hybrid, realistic or semi-realistic dildos and plugs, ejaculating dildos or double dongs: Ali Baba's cave opens wide for you to go deep, without shame! 

Vary the pleasures and practices to head straight for nirvana!

Soft BDSM is a journey of self and partner discovery. With respect, attentiveness, and tenderness, it opens an infinite realm of possibilities for your intimate life, in complete safety.

So, ready to take the plunge and push the limits of your pleasure?

Soft BDSM FAQ

What are SM practices? 

SM, short for sado-maso, includes numerous couple dynamics and practices that stir a different side of pleasure. 

Popularized by the film 50 Shades of Grey, SM spans a range of activities such as: 

• Punishment;

• Sadism;

• Masochism;

• Role play;

• Staging scenarios with a partner.

BDSM, which stands for “bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism,” is a derivative but differs in practice intensity and the degree of submission.

What is the history of BDSM?

BDSM traces its origins back to antiquity. In Mesopotamia, the first traces of the practice are found. The goddess Inanna, whose body was adorned with precious stones, asked her disciples to perform a dance for her. As the dance intensified, Inanna whipped them, caught between excitement and sexual frenzy.

In ancient Greece, flagellation was also common.