How to have anal sex? A complete guide to getting started gently

Sodomy is a sexual practice surrounded by taboos. Stereotypes surrounding anal penetration are hard to break!

However, when practiced well, it transforms your lovemaking into an intense source of pleasure and complicity between the two partners and can even allow you to discover new experiences such as the practice of soft BDSM.

But before taking the plunge, many people, especially those who are new to the subject, wonder about the best approach to practicing painless sodomy , the type of preparation required or even the best positions to adopt during a first anal experience.

Strap-on-me® gives you all the keys to success to approach this practice with gentleness, respect, and safety. Follow the guide!

Sodomy in brief

Preparation is the key to sodomy! This is especially true when you're new to the practice. To properly prepare, don't neglect:

• Using a water-based lubricant to improve glide and increase comfort;

• The introduction : gentle and sensual foreplay based on languorous kisses and naughty caresses, followed by progressive penetration with fingers or small sex toys;

• Communication with your partner : as with any sexual practice, consent and respect for the other person's desire are essential.

The key lies above all in the right measure to limit the discomfort of the person being penetrated as well as of the person penetrating them.

Note that anal sex doesn't necessarily require a penis. Do you know what pegging is? Anal penetration of a woman using a strap-on dildo! When it comes to sodomy, anything goes!

Who is sodomy for?

Although sodomy has long been associated with homosexual people (especially two male partners), it is not reserved for a specific public: it is open and accessible to everyone, man, woman, heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual, provided that it is practiced with total respect and mutual trust.

The choice is yours and should never be an obligation or a decision made under duress. Daring to explore it is sometimes breaking a taboo, but above all, it opens a new door to intimacy in a relationship.

What pleasures does anal penetration bring?

Like the vagina, the anal area has an infinite number of nerve endings, giving you just as many chances to get off!

If sodomy appeals to both sexes, it is because of its incredible ability to titillate numerous pleasure zones:

• In men : sodomy directly stimulates the prostate, also called

• Point P, a real source of intense orgasms;

• In women : anal penetration exerts internal pressure which stimulates

• indirectly the vagina and the clitoris. Combined with vaginal penetration, it promises a one-way trip to the gates of ecstasy…;

• For couples : beyond physical pleasure, sodomy strengthens complicity and connection between the two partners, because it requires trust, listening and communication.

How to prepare your body for first anal sex?

If the practice is above all a story of feelings, good preparation before an anal experience is recommended.

Hygiene

Opinions vary regarding anal preparation before sodomy. Some prefer to perform an enema, while others prefer a shower to clean themselves.

However, the preparation must remain light and comfortable for everyone.

Food

Before anal sex, avoid heavy or spicy meals , as this can cause discomfort or bloating, which can limit your movement. This is also true for any other sexual activity!

So, choose a light diet.

Psychological preparation

The mind plays a central role in anal sex. To get the most pleasure, there's no secret: you need to be relaxed and listen to yourself and your partner. Communication is essential: express your desires, your fears, and your limits.

Why is lubricant essential?

Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce any natural lubrication. Engaging in anal sex without added lubricant significantly increases the risk of pain, irritation, or injury.

To make the best choice, select your lubricant:

• Water-based : very easy to clean, it is compatible with a large majority of sex toys such as our strap-on dildos or our ejaculating dildos and condoms, but can dry faster;

• Silicone-based : It offers long-lasting glide and is therefore perfect for extended sex. However, it is not compatible with silicone sex toys, which limits its possibilities of use;

• Hybrid (water + silicone) : this lubricant combines comfort and durability, making it a very good compromise between its two counterparts.

The golden rule when it comes to lubricant is: too much is too much! Apply generously and reapply as needed during sex.

Comparison table: suitable Strap On Me lubricants

To help you choose the right product, discover a simple comparison of our lubricants for anal practices , signed strap-on-me®:

Product name	Basic type	Main asset	Format	Price
Mixgliss Lubricant	Water	Easy to clean, sex toy compatible	100 ml bottle	€€
NÜ Mixgliss 2 in 1 Lubricant	Water	Lubricant + massage gel	150 ml bottle	€€
Mixgliss Max Anal Lubricant (in jar)	Water	Thick texture, perfect for anal sex	250 ml jar	€€€
Mixgliss Max Lubricant (in tube)	Water	Long lasting, ideal for beginners	100 ml tube	€€
Creamy Fake Sperm Lubricant	Water	Realistic and playful texture	125 ml bottle	€€

Discover our entire range and choose the lubricant that best suits your needs.

Our practical advice for a successful experience

For a pleasant and comfortable practice, proceed step by step:

• 1. Start with caresses and massages : the anus is sensitive, take the time to prepare and relax the area well;

• 2. Use your fingers or small sex toys : a thin dildo, an anal plug or a gloved finger can gradually prepare the body to receive a penis. Take a look at our collection of dildos !

• 3. Choose the right position : Spooning to start gently, Doggy for good control, or modified missionary for prolonged eye contact and intimacy.

Frequently asked questions about how to have anal sex

Can I have anal sex without lubricant?

No, the use of lubricant is essential during anal sex to avoid pain and discomfort.

Will it hurt?

It may take some getting used to for the first time. However, with proper preparation and taking your time, the fun will soon begin!

What sex toys can I use for training?

Sex toy preferences vary from person to person. However, as a beginner, you can experiment with anal plugs, slim dildos, or anal beads to gradually discover new sensations.

Can I have anal sex during my period?

Many women continue to have sexual intercourse during their periods. Anal sex is not contraindicated during menstruation, but it depends largely on individual preference.

Can I have an anal orgasm?

In men, anal sex stimulates the prostate, and in women, it provides indirect stimulation of the vagina and clitoris. Both partners who engage in this practice can easily achieve an anal orgasm.